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How to tempt women, remaining a nice guy?

Don’t believe these women’s words

This article could be entitled as: “Why don’t women show their love interest to the “nice guys”, (like me) despite the fact they assert that want to date exactly with “nice guy” (like
me).

Here it is! But, probably, it isn’t about you. Why do I write this article? Just, because, in recent time I feel, as I get new profession- the internet- consultant on the masculine personal problems. The question I have formulated in the preceding paragraph- this is a typical model of the question, on which I have already responded a thousands times, and think, that even after writing this text, I will continue do it. Below you will find my pattern of the answer on this banal question: why do women all over the world, ignore “nice guys”. I will also show you how to overcome this social barrier without all those trainings like “How to become a bumpkin” ( although, say, there are you can possibility to meet many sexual women.

I am sure that you, not wishing that, already learned this infuriating mantra, being a nomad on womanish mouths or on various TV-shows, going on television on week-days in the middle of the day: "All the guys are losers. I simply can not find a man, with whom I can have serious relationships. I search for kind, attentive, gentle…” Stop!!! Don’t believe any of these words.

In general, if you consider yourself as a “nice guy” judging to on the convincing utterances of practically all women, you must be the nearly man of their dream, but, when you begin to be drawn together with these women and behave yourself as how they didn’t even dream about, you understood, what nonsense all these words are. Another interesting fact…While, most unfrigid women (18- 35 years old ) in reality, sleep and date with decayed alcoholics and chuffs (telling everyone, how they hate them), they hammer in our heads, that this happens ONLY because normal “nice guy” (or, “prince charming” ) haven’t yet appeared in their lives. So that is that.

Now, you know what happens in reality. Just, don’t be mad on women. Accept their words, as foreign language, which you understand more than a half. You need to understand, you can learn this language.

When woman dreams about a “nice guy”, in actual fact she imagines a man, with whom she will feel herself SAFELY… But his force will come from him by the quite special appearance in which a masculine sexual attractiveness consists. All appears where less mystic, if to give a glance on a situation from the womanish point of view. For the woman, all the tenderness, which she searching in the man consists, foremost, in that, that this man will not cause her physical harm and nothing else. But, her emotional side eager another- she searches deep and imperious control of all her acts, especially foolish ones. This strange thundering mixture of cold and warmth, interesting and boring, safe and danger- it just that she searches In actual fact - it that, for what she lives right through life. This is some kind of “chemical” composition, which she tries to find in every man. But he is fully predictable!

The main problem of too nice, too gentle, too attentive, friendly attitude towards the woman is that, it contains the worst variant of the report that you are ready to become her SLAVE. It is thus IMPORTANT to understand that this information is passed in non-verbal way and scarcely a woman can realize how swiftly her attitude changes toward a man on the early stages of their intercourse. Words can be the effective instrument of tempting, but everything decides not with the help of words, but it’s basic. Anyway, this fatal message is the main reason, why sexual life of "nice guys" reminds life of monks in a monastery. Here is how we can better formulate it:
The acts of "nice guys" are examined by women not as a result of own salutary influence on surrounding men, and, rather, as wretched attempts of men to make impression on them.
Indeed, women suppose that a conduct of "nice guy" was trained (yes, as for a dog) by other more powerful men in his surroundings!]

In other words, the tenderer and nicer guy, the more obliging man can be in the presence of strong men to protect themselves from harm. ("I don’t threaten your dominant rank…. Please, don’t beat me…Let me be your soft bedding under your feet ...") For the women, for example, tenderness and mildness is like red light, signaling, that this guy is the man of poor-level rank, and consequently...

... It is the INEVITABLE LOSS of INTEREST from their side!

Therefore, they can’t wind up sexually from the lovely guys, from their “chemical composition”, and it’s actually very reasonable. Nature programmed a womanish brain on the search of the strongest male for a coupling, to produce the strongest posterity with maximal chances on a survival. On the same reason men are programmed by nature on pursuit of women who are expressed the signs of youth (because youth = it’s successful births, and with the years aspires to give this probability to the zero). While the masculine and the womanish ACTIONS can be diametrically opposite, their AIMS always coincide these are strong healthy children, continuing family. It really works, that “femininity” and “masculinity”- these are two different, but complementary STRATEGIES of reproduction and both sexes are forced to behave themselves in different ways to bring these various strategies into effect in the name of a single goal.

As you can see, the nature does not care that it hurts the feelings of people- it cares only about the success of the evolutionary way, which allows invaluable DNA molecules travel through time. Marriage pastime and tempting - for all creatures - indivisibly related to this biological directive. Make attempt to operate contrary to it and you will have constantly to bother yourself a battle with statute, which has several billion years. Let’s try to play round her rules…and you become a winner!

In any case, to be a nice guy, attracting women like a magnet, means to be:

* A man, with whom the woman feels safe herself;
* A guy, for whom it isn’t the problem to show all his best qualities to her family and close friends.

Try to understand, there is an endless number of points between bedding foot and complete loony and rude person. Your task is to find the very golden mean.

Now a bit practical application of the studied theory :) It’s complicated to describe properly how to get out from the syndrome of failures of "nice guy", but I will make attempt do all possible:

Just think about it. You have never the desire to act as “nice guy” in the women’s company, but…you always want to be like him.

Do you understand what I’m going to explain you? Your problem of the “nice guy” is that you TRY to be nice, instead of being such person. You can not appear, as a nice guy whom women want to see; - you have to give women quite bit hints, to SEEM such. NEVER show to women of your potential to be decent, tender and polite, as if it is your main subject of pride! Don’t ever do so!
Below I give a few examples, illustrating what I mean:

* For the first time when you see a woman who attracts you, it’s important to set the UNVERBAL line of intercourse so that in her unconscious appeared the ideas about sex. In other words, you need to pass the personal interest in her, radiating a sex appeal and showing the intentions, but don’t SPEAK about it. Nice trick, yes? Actually, it is very simple... two methods, by which you can attain this, it is the long contact of looks and lights, non-aggressive touches. Both are happening “By chance”, but it sends subconscious messages about the intentionality of your actions.
* Constantly do HINTS on your ability to be a "nice guy", but not demonstrate it - otherwise you will become a boy on run errands. Achieves this by:
Or by slippery fantasies about the presence of strong family and friendly relationships in your life (signal for a woman, that you are devoted and intelligent);
Or story about something exiting, what be going on in your life – whether it be work, hobby or your last adventure of any kind.

Here’s an example from my personal experience. One time I worked as a photographer. Does sound exciting? Actually, not everything is like that. Time which I conducted with a camera in hands made less than 5% of my working hours. I was mainly engaged in boring laboratory work, and also repaired of equipment, which periodically falling out But, somewhere, between 5-20 times a year, I have to fly over New York on light aircrafts, making pictures for tourist cards or photos of the offices of big companies.

In general, when I socialize with a girl, I often try to make her interested in small description of a view from an airplane which I saw and memorized for all my life. This is a wonderful description of the patterns that formed cracks in the ice of Lake Erie in the middle of the winter. I tell her about these patterns, compare them with patterns on a window glass in the cold snow-covered days.

But I no longer expose any secrets... and I do not explain how I had to fly on an airplane round a city and to look after the described picture. Does it connect with it? Or it is my hobby only? What I’m doing, so that gave me an opportunity to see this miracle of the nature? Business trip? Or what?

She was interested in the answers, but it’s inconvenient to ask me such questions, because I immediately changed the subject of our conversation, beside, she didn’t know me too good. Thus, (this is important to understand) she LIKES that she does not know everything! Secret! Intrigue! I quietly brought her to the suggestion that I am a business man (with whom she will feel herself comfortably and safely), who does something incredible, who probably earns good money - but not revealing the whole truth about yourself and details of the events, which you described, did not go on this boastful way which goes all the horror boring "nice guys".

You can give her some hints concerning the family (a serious relationship, like, "I'm not hotshot eternal bachelor"), or something like this, as to show her that you are cool (nice?) man not pricking the soap-bubble of MYSTERY, which any tempting must be covered.

Now you did the first step on a way to her heart. Why? Because she had identified in her subconscious (which is hundreds of times more important than consciousness) that, in addition to the confidence that you emit (hopefully, on this you are already working ;-)), you look as that nice guy about whom she have dreamed for a long time.

The best method to conquer the hearts of women is to belong to the that very rare type of men, who inherited leniency and interesting of "nice guy" and confidence and equanimity of bumpkin. Remember, that it’s very important to work over you all the time, to use in the best way, the moment of “First Meeting” with the woman. Regardless of what flaws do you find in yourself, now you become interesting to her to such an extent that, at least you will not be regarded to the "reptilian" nice guy. Make more experiments!